Oh, okay. Therefore what if me and also you go to my favourite hangout spot nearby, have some food, and chat around life?

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All right. I’ll accomplish you wherein you are – view you soon.

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Wow, the was a lot of fun, yeah? I had actually no idea friend were together a fascinating person.

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Definitely.

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Sure! Looking forward to it.

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Oh, hey again.

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I’ve been all right. You?

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So hey, ns was wonder – you discussed a couple of months back that friendship was around having a good time through people, laughing and feeling great during it. Since we common that together, no it weird that we simply ignored every other’s existence afterward, considering that we’re friend now?

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Oh, it is strange. Is it since we simply hung the end once? What if we hung out three times?

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So what if us hung the end a hundred times?

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Interesting. Therefore somewhere in between 5 and 100… yet that sound so arbitrary. Like, what would be the tipping point that takes us from acquaintance come friendship? The 15th hangout? The 51st?

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Oh, what perform you mean?

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So the must average you’re friends!

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Hmm, that’s sort of sad. You men have had so plenty of interesting conversations and great times together for a totality year. The a shame to watch all the vanish.

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Wow, really?

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So you saying the you both feeling this, even if girlfriend haven’t explicitly told each other this?

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But what around your girlfriend from earlier? You to be pretty i was sure in proclaiming that the was your friend.

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Do you view him as much as you watch your co-worker?

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So also though you have more interactions with your co-worker every year, you’re quiet closer come Brandon.

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So the history of that friend is what carries you forward. But what if now, you guys don’t view the people the same way, and also your interests room no much longer the same?

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So there’s a type of willful ignorance involved, eh?

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That’s interesting.

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Yeah. So is that a provided that childhood friends have tendency to be people’s best friends?

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Huh?

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Oh. Have you well-known him because that a lengthy time?

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Do you check out him often?

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Wait. I don’t get it. Therefore you’ve known him for a shorter duration of time than Brandon, you watch him even less than Brandon, however he’s your ideal friend.

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What do you mean by that? exactly how does one “feel closer” come another?

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That sounds easy.

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Okay, however as we pointed out with the co-worker, the frequency of hangouts doesn’t define a nearby friend.

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I gain it. So if we’ve had the possibility to hang the end a bunch that times and create a many of great memories, we’d be yes, really close friends.

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But in your diagram, ns don’t see an additional tier that’s deeper than the one we’re talk about.

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Scary? What do you mean? Aren’t all friendships supposed to be pleasant and also full of an excellent vibes?

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Wait. Why on earth would friend willingly carry out that? shouldn’t those dark parts just be maintained to yourself?

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But just how does acknowledging one’s flaws and also weaknesses bring about deeper friendship? won’t that kind of turn you off to one an additional – girlfriend know, act as a buzzkill?

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I think the word supplied to describe this phenomenon is “vulnerability,” correct?

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Intuitive openness? What execute you mean by that?

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Okay, i think I get the point about intuition. What carry out you mean by the “openness” part?

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Wow, life sound so much easier on this tier.

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I like the sound that this tier. A lot.

Okay, i’m ready.

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I’m going to be breakable with you and also tell friend a lot of the points I’ve been struggling with. Every the flaws I’m working on, all the points that I’ve been contemplating, and then you tell me yours.

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Um, i don’t know, ns guess?

Sigh… I’m simply trying to understand just how this person friendship point works. It all appears so complicated, therefore nuanced… and also then you administer this frame that provides it look a lot simpler. So i’m just complying with it to gain to the deepest level possible.

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Can’t you simply clarify that with your friend? simply ask that or her wherein you both stand at any given moment?

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I favor that.

It’s a little bit paradoxical, no it? The much more intention girlfriend drive right into making a friend, the less likely you’ll finish up v a deeper friendship?

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Gotcha.

So the an ext time we spend right here talking around deep friendships, specifying what they space and examining them, the less likely we’ll become friends, huh?

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Thanks, I’ve to be enjoying our chat too.

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Nice! I like the sound of that.

We can have a beach suffer that might end up being a common memory, right?

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So okay swing by in a few to choose you up?

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See you in a bit.

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Good-bye, friend.

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